8 Crucial Questions To Find The Perfect Gift Every Time (2023)

Gift giving can be a minefield – and we all want to find the perfect gift if we can, right?…

You want the recipient to love whatever you get them – you want to be thoughtful….


you also want to stick to a budget and not have to look around thousands of shops for days on end (OK a slight exaggeration, but you get the idea!)…

8 Crucial Questions To Find The Perfect Gift Every Time (1)

We’ve all been there…

It’s coming up to a birthday/Christmas/**insert special event that needs a present bought**, and you’re wandering around town from shop to shop, or scrolling through endless shop pages online – hoping for inspiration to jump out from behind one of the shelves…

Trouble is, if you try and find a gift like this, chances are that even if the perfect gift was front and centre in the shop, surrounded by banners and lights – you may not recognise it as such, and keep searching.

If you don’t know what you’re looking for, gift shopping can be at best a way to get your daily step count in and at worst a complete waste of time.

(Video) Penny solves string theory.

There has to be a better way to findthe perfect gift…

How to gift shop the right way

Over the years I’ve become better at finding the right gifts for people. Things that they feel have been picked specifically for them, and gifts that make them smile.

It’s a really special feeling when you are the giver of a gift that the recipient loves, and it’s sort of addictive!

So – how can you get to the point where it’s easy to find the perfect gift?

The trick is to ask the right questions before you start shopping – so you can focus your search, not waste time, and so that you can recognise that perfect gift when it shows itself….

The main thing to remember

Before I start on what questions to ask yourself, there is one key thing you must always keep front of mind when you start present shopping for anyone – and that’s the following: –

It’s not about what YOU like – it’s about THEM

It’s too easy to spot something that you love and assume that your friend would love it too – but we are all so different, and we should always think of that person rather than ourselves when buying for them.

At all times you want to be PERSONAL and THOUGHTFUL – it goes a long way to know that someone hasn’t just popped down the shops and bought the first thing they’ve seen, or bought something they love without thinking of you at all…

So – how do you do this easily and quickly each and every time gifts need buying?

(Video) ‘I Don’t Matter’: the Queen Jokes on Platinum Jubilee

The trick is to ask the right questions first – and I’ve listed them all below to make it easy for you.

Key Questions to ask to find the perfect gift

Simply go through these questions and you’ll start to get a few great ideas to work with: –

#1 – What do they like – or ideally – love?

This will help you to focus on them rather than you.

If they are close enough to you for you to be buying a gift for them, chances are you’ll know the answer to this question already, but it never hurts to ask them as well.

#2 – What do they dislike?

It’s just as important to be able to rule out lots of things that they don’t like as it is to know what they DO like.

For example – I like neutral colours and I hate pastel colours – so staying away from pastels in any shape or form would be perfect for anyone buying me a present. Someone else may hate a specific colour, a type of fabric, a food, a type of item etc….

They may not like technology, they may hate novelty gifts – just start to see what they comment on over time and you’ll get a good idea of their dislikes at the same time as their likes.

#3 – Any allergies / phobias / health issues to take into consideration?

For example, can that person actually use what you want to get them? It would be very insensitive if they couldn’t..

Some examples of what NOT to get would be as follows: –

  • Flowers are great unless they are a hay fever sufferer.
  • Buying a Christmas hamper may be a perfect present for a couple – but not if it contains a bag of nuts and the wife has an allergy….
  • Wine for someone who is not drinking in January may not be ideal for Christmas
  • Someone who doesn’t have a bath in their house wouldn’t appreciate a beauty gift box with bubble bath included

Just remember to take a look at the whole gift, and ensure that they can use and enjoy every part of it.

(Video) “Hellenism in Art from Both Sides of The Pond” Panel Discussion

#4 –What’s their style?

Take some ideas from their own home / what they wear if you can – as this will tell you a lot about what they like.

See what crops up a lot when you see them, what they tend to buy etc…

#5 – What could / do they need?

  • A family with kids may not want any more toys as they may be inundated. As such, maybe a book or a voucher would be a better match.
  • Should you be adding to the clutter? Do they prefer cash to presents etc…
  • Are they taking a course in something – could you get them something that would help with that?
  • Do they have any hobbies that would work well for items that would be useful for them such as baking items for an avid cook, or a colouring book for a craft fan etc…
  • Are they doing anything over the next few months that would prompt a present idea? starting school / starting a new job / going on a holiday etc…

#6 – What’s your budget?

When looking to find the perfect gift, you also need to know your budget – and stick to it. This will help you to know where to shop, and what you can look at.

And remember – you don’t have to blow the budget to get the perfect gift. In fact, often the opposite is true.

Handmade, gift vouchers of things you can give (time etc…) can be the best gift ever.

#7 – Is this a special event (anniversary, birthstone, theme etc..)?

You may have an event that means it opens up doors that would otherwise not be options.

For example – you could focus on birthstones for a birthday, the specific theme of an anniversary (wood, silver etc…), maybe it’s a wedding where they have asked for a certain type of present, or a special age birthday (40th, 1st etc…)

#8 – Is there anything specific to the two of your that has a special meaning?

Do you know of something that they’ve mentioned over the last few months that would be a perfect starting point for a gift that really means something?

Do you have a special memory with a friend that would create the perfect idea for a gift?

If you can answer all these questions you are a lot more likely to be able to get a present that’s totally perfect for the person you are buying for, without breaking the bank doing so.

(Video) Mariah Carey - All I Want for Christmas Is You (Make My Wish Come True Edition)

Yes, it may take a few extra minutes to brainstorm, but it will help you to focus your gift search once you are more clear on what you’re looking for and so will help save time in the long run.

Related: 100+ Ideas For What To Write In A Birthday Card You Need The Right Words For

How this helps find the perfect gift over time…

Over the years you’ll become more and more aware of what each person likes, and you will be able to pick up on things that they say more and more because you’ll be looking for these ideas from them without even realising it.

There really is nothing nicer than having mentioned in passing something and then a few months later being given a present relating to that – it shows you’ve been listened to.

I always advise writing a list of good options for the different people in your life, so you have some of this thinking done beforehand – and you can also see what you’ve got them before. This is something I keep in my Home File so it’s always there, and I can add ideas as and when they come to me.

TIP – This also makes it really easy to spot presents even when you’re not looking specifically for people. You will be training your brain to notice things. How nice it is to have bought the perfect present way ahead of time, and not had to go out of your way in the process – saves so much time and energy…

8 Crucial Questions To Find The Perfect Gift Every Time (3)

I really hope this has given you a few ideas of what you can get someone the next time you are buying a present.

Do you find it easy or hard to find the perfect gift for someone?

(Video) Don't Touch The Lord's Anointed!

If you want some inspiration, then take a look at the gift giving section of this site for more ideas (it’s new and will be added to and updated all the time with things I find and love) – enjoy!.


What is the 7 gift rule? ›

What is the 7-gift rule? It is the concept of buying only a set number of gifts for each individual, with each gift falling into a specific category. As you may have to guess, the specific number of gifts for this rule is 7. You buy one gift to fit in each category and by the end; you have 7 gifts to give.

What is the 5 gift rule? ›

In the 5 Gift Rule, the first four gifts are the same - something they want, something they need, something to wear and something to read. But the 5th? The 5th is the real winner. It's something they need or want but don't really know it.

What is the 4 gift rule? ›

A trend which has gained traction over the past few years on social media is the "four gift rule". Parents pledge to give their offspring just four presents: Something they want, something they need, something to wear and something to read.

What is the 3 gift rule? ›

One popular tactic is to have your kids narrow their gift lists to just three categories: something they want (say, a new video game), something they need (like a puffer coat) and something to read (the Ramona series has been calling their name).

What makes a true gift? ›

A true gift is something no one can take away from you. Sometimes it is good to pause and take stock of the gifts you have given yourself that are yours to keep no matter what.

How do I find my natural gift? ›

5 Ways to Discover Your Unique Gifts
  1. How did you love to spend your time as a child? What did you enjoy doing the most? ...
  2. What are you passionate about as an adult? ...
  3. What is important to you about life? ...
  4. Take the Strengths Finder assessment. ...
  5. Ask your family, friends, and co-workers.

What is the gift rule? ›

The Gifts Rule allows you to accept gifts, including discounts, offered to the public, to all federal employees, or to members of a group or class in which membership is unrelated to congressional employment.

What are the stages of gift-giving? ›

According to this model, the gift-giving process has three stages -- gestation, prestation, and reformulation.

What are the 5 gifts in the Bible? ›

Ephesians 4:11 lists 5 gifts which are Apostle, Prophet, Evangelist, Pastor and Teacher. These 5 are unique – they are governing ministry gifts given to people who are called to ministry leadership within the global and local church.

How much money is not considered a gift? ›

You can give up to the annual exclusion amount ($16,000 in 2022) to any number of people every year, without facing any gift taxes or filing a gift tax return. If you give more than $16,000 in 2022 to someone in one year, you do not automatically have to pay a gift tax on the overage.

How many presents is a good amount? ›

Some people say that three gifts are sufficient since that's all the baby Jesus got. Others go by a “rule of four” or seven or 10. And some parents delight in celebrating abundance and want Christmas to be a time of merry excess in contrast to the disciplines of regular life.

What are the power of gifts? ›

Receiving gifts make us happy and we feel obliged to the person who has presented it to us, while giving gifts to others gives us inner satisfaction. In fact, gift giving is an important part of human interaction as it strengthens bonds with family and friends.

What are the 3 power gifts in the Bible? ›

The reason we call them the power gifts, is because each one of these gifts, do something. The gifts that fall into this category are; the gift of special faith, gifts of healings, and the working of miracles.

What are the categories of gift? ›

The two principal categories of gifts are inter vivos gifts and causa mortis gifts.

How do I identify my gifts and talents? ›

How to Discover Your Talents Using These 13 Easy Tips
  1. Take a life assessment. ...
  2. Find what makes you feel strong. ...
  3. Find what you spend the most money on. ...
  4. Ask your friends what your best and worst qualities are. ...
  5. Ask your family what you loved as a child. ...
  6. Write in a journal. ...
  7. Look for talent in others.
7 Mar 2022

What is the greatest gift in life? ›

The greatest gift in life is our ability to love. Not in our capacity to receive it, but in our power to give it. It truly is the gift that keeps on giving. And what's more special, is that you already own it.

What is a pure gift? ›

The 'free' or 'pure gift' is impersonal, a feature that is maintained, as Copeman (2000) argues, be- cause of the lack of recognition from the recipi- ent towards the donor. The pure gift is thus altruistically given. There is no expectation of reciprocation and the donor is alienated from the object that they give.

What are the six spiritual gifts? ›

These abilities, often termed "charismatic gifts", are the word of knowledge, increased faith, the gifts of healing, the gift of miracles, prophecy, the discernment of spirits, diverse kinds of tongues, interpretation of tongues.

What are my core gifts? ›

  • Your Core Gift is an offering that is uniquely yours to give. ...
  • Knowing your Core Gift means you can better share it with others. ...
  • Your Core Gift develops throughout your lifetime, touches all parts of your life, and becomes more impactful each time you face new challenges or give it to others.

How do I know my gift and talent from God? ›

Discover Your God-given Gifts
  1. Prayer: Matthew 7:7 tells us to ask, seek and knock. We can pray about and seek out our talents. ...
  2. Asking Others: Asking others can also give us an idea about our talents. ...
  3. Pay Attention to What You Enjoy: What activities do you enjoy? ...
  4. Practice: Talents do not develop overnight.
6 Aug 2021

What's the maximum gift amount for 2022? ›


What is the gift threshold? ›

In 2022, you can give up to $16,000 to someone in a year and generally not have to deal with the IRS about it. In 2023, this threshold is $17,000. If, for example, you give more than $16,000 in cash or assets (for example, stocks, land, a new car) to any one person in 2022, you need to file a gift tax return.

When should you not split gifts? ›

Once a donor spouse's lifetime exemption has been used, it cannot be recovered or split retroactively between both spouses. Also, if a couple were to divorce and one or both spouses remarry in the same calendar year, any gifts which took place that year prior to the divorce could not be split.

What makes a gift meaningful? ›

A meaningful gift is one that the recipient will cherish -- not just in the moment that they get it, but for the rest of their lives. Ideally, it's a permanent reminder of your love and gratitude for their presence in your life. Gifts with meaning are more than things.

What is a good and perfect gift? ›

Whatever is good and perfect is a gift coming down to us from God our Father, who created all the lights in the heavens. He never changes or casts a shifting shadow. Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of lights, with whom there is no variation or shadow due to change.

What are the 3 types of planned gifts? ›

The 3 Types of Planned Giving
  • Current Gifts. Current gifts are those given and received now. ...
  • Deferred Gifts. Deferred gifts are decided upon or given now but received by your organization at some time in the future, often at the end of the donor's (and the donor's spouse's) lifetime. ...
  • Split Interest Gifts.

What are the 7 gifts God gave us? ›

The seven gifts of the Holy Spirit are wisdom, understanding, counsel, fortitude, knowledge, piety, and fear of the Lord. While some Christans accept these as a definitive list of specific attributes, others understand them merely as examples of the Holy Spirit's work through the faithful.

What are the 12 gifts from God? ›

The tradition of the Church lists twelve of them: “charity, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, generosity, gentleness, faithfulness, modesty, self-control, chastity.”

What gifts did God give us? ›

According to the Scriptures, these gifts include such ministries as faith, healing, prophecy, proclamation, teaching, administration, reconciliation, compassion, and self-sacrificing service and charity for the help and encouragement of people.

What is the first step of gift? ›

The first steps of GIFT are similar to those of IVF: Ovary stimulation. You take medications to grow multiple mature eggs and to prevent your body from releasing the eggs too early.

What is the gift that never stops giving? ›

“I testify that Jesus Christ is the perfect gift—the gift that never stops giving.”

What makes gift giving difficult? ›

We found that the biggest obstacle when it comes to finding gifts for others is time. We all have busy lives and every second is precious. More often than not, our busy lives can stray us away from the ones closest to us in our lives. Our work and commitments take up most of the day.

Are there any gift taboos? ›

Italians like to avoid black and gold — those colors are associated with funerals. Additionally, purple represents bad luck. In some Asian cultures, giving someone a knife or pair of scissors is a terrible idea. They can be symbolic of cutting something off, such as ending a friendship or relationship.

Can I transfer 100k to my son? ›

Does my child? A: The short answer is NO: you almost certainly will NOT have to pay any gift taxes. Remember, under current law, you can make $11.58 million dollars' worth of gifts in your lifetime without incurring any gift tax liability.

Can a gift be too personal? ›

Don't: Be too personal

A gift that is too personal or intimate can make someone uncomfortable, says Salemi. “Nothing should be exchanged that would make the other person uncomfortable, and if you're unsure, the fact that you're questioning it means there's probably a reason for it,” she explains.

Does paying a bill count as a gift? ›

When you pay a friend or family member's credit card bill without any expectation of being paid back, the IRS considers it a gift.

What is the maximum one time gift? ›

The IRS allows every taxpayer is gift up to $16,000 to an individual recipient in one year. There is no limit to the number of recipients you can give a gift to.

What is the average cash gift? ›

The average wedding gift amount hovers right around $100, which is a great place to start, and you can increase or decrease that based on how close you are. If you're very close or related to the couple (and have the wiggle room in your budget), you may choose to spend more—about $150 per guest (or $200 from a couple).

What is considered a large gift? ›

If you're still not sure, here's a good rule of thumb: An appropriate level for a major gift is an amount where approximately five percent of your donors can (and will) give at that level. It should be high enough that when you receive one, it's cause for celebration at your office.

How much money can you legally give away? ›

Here's a rundown. Annual exemption: Everyone in the UK has an allowance of £3,000 a year that they can gift as they please without paying tax. Small gifts: These are additional small gifts of up to £250 a person you make – such as birthday or Christmas presents – using your regular income.

How much can you give your children tax-free in 2022? ›

Like we've mentioned before, the annual exclusion limit (the cap on tax-free gifts) is a whopping $16,000 per person per year for 2022 (it's $17,000 for gifts made in 20232). So even if you do give outrageously, you wouldn't have to file a gift tax return unless you went over those limits.

How much money can you give your family tax-free? ›

Annual Gift Tax Limits

The annual gift tax exclusion of $16,000 for 2022 is the amount of money that you can give as a gift to one person, in any given year, without having to pay any gift tax. You never have to pay taxes on gifts that are equal to or less than the annual exclusion limit.

How much can you give a family member without paying tax? ›

You can give up to the annual exclusion amount ($16,000 in 2022) to any number of people every year, without facing any gift taxes or filing a gift tax return. If you give more than $16,000 in 2022 to someone in one year, you do not automatically have to pay a gift tax on the overage.

Can I gift my house to my children? ›

The most common way to transfer property to your children is through gifting it. This is usually done to ensure they will not have to pay inheritance tax when you die.

Can I give my son 100k? ›

Summary for giving money away

Accepting the 'deprivation of assets' rules, do not apply to you, you can gift as much as you want to your family, to friends, to people but be aware of the seven year rule because it can be bought back into your estate if you die within seven years.

How does IRS know you gifted money? ›

Filing Form 709: First, the IRS primarily finds out about gifts if you report them using Form 709. As a requirement, gifts exceeding $15,000 must be reported on this form.

Will an inheritance put me in a higher tax bracket? ›

While federal estate taxes and state-level estate or inheritance taxes may apply to estates that exceed the applicable thresholds (for example, in 2022 the federal estate tax exemption amount is $12.06 million for an individual), receipt of an inheritance does not result in taxable income for federal or state income ...

Can my parents give me money to buy a house? ›

Lenders generally won't allow you to use a cash gift from just anyone to get a mortgage. The money usually must come from a family member, such as a parent, grandparent or sibling. It's also generally acceptable to receive gifts from your spouse, domestic partner or significant other if you're engaged to be married.

How much money can a husband give his wife tax free? ›

Answer: As per the income tax laws, gifts received by a person are treated as income if the aggregate amount of all the gifts received by him from all sources during the year exceeds Rs 50,000.

Is it better to gift or inherit money? ›

Whether your assets become gifts or inheritance, your heirs usually face no tax liability on them: Any gift taxes or estate taxes due are typically your or your estate's liabilities. However, if you gift appreciated assets during your lifetime, those assets' original cost basis transfers with the gifts.

Can you give inheritance before death? ›

Give now or later: The IRS doesn't care

The U.S. tax code makes it fairly easy to give your children money, stocks or other investments or a piece of the family business. You can transfer up to a certain amount during your lifetime as a gift or at death through a will, free from federal gift and estate taxes.

Is a gift considered income? ›

The IRS considers a gift to be money or items of value given to another person without receiving anything of value in return. A gift is not considered to be income for federal tax purposes. Individuals receiving gifts of money, or anything else of value, do not need to report the gifts on their tax returns.

What is the best way to gift money to a child? ›

Choose a Method of Gifting
  1. Lump sum of cash, which may or may not be earmarked for a particular expense.
  2. Cash paid in installments.
  3. Transferred investments.
  4. Contributions to a child's retirement account.
  5. Contributions to a 529 plan whether for an adult child's education or a grandchild's education.
14 Sept 2021

How do you gift a large sum of money to family? ›

To do this, you've got to use IRS Form 709 when filing your annual tax return. You need to complete and submit Form 709 for any year that you make a taxable gift. Sending in the form doesn't necessarily mean you'll have to pay anything on the gift — it's just the form you'll need to use to declare the gift.

How do I deposit a large cash gift? ›

Your accepting a $25,000 gift requires no special filing with the government. However, if you attempt to deposit it as one lump sum in a bank, you will be required to complete what is known as a “currency transaction report,” a form banks require for all deposits of $10,000 or more.


1. Wave, Goodbye | Ep. 1105
(Andrew Klavan)
2. What made 'Granny' Queen Elizabeth II special to Royal grandchildren
(ABC News)
3. Kristen Bell, Santino Fontana - Love Is an Open Door (From "Frozen"/Sing-Along)
4. How to Tie the Perfect Bow
(Lia Griffith)
5. Teen Who Pushed Friend off Bridge Apologizes
(Inside Edition)
6. WATCH LIVE: Day 8 - Johnny Depp v Amber Heard Defamation Trial - Ben King - House Manager
(Law&Crime Network)
Top Articles
Latest Posts
Article information

Author: Cheryll Lueilwitz

Last Updated: 03/14/2023

Views: 6376

Rating: 4.3 / 5 (54 voted)

Reviews: 85% of readers found this page helpful

Author information

Name: Cheryll Lueilwitz

Birthday: 1997-12-23

Address: 4653 O'Kon Hill, Lake Juanstad, AR 65469

Phone: +494124489301

Job: Marketing Representative

Hobby: Reading, Ice skating, Foraging, BASE jumping, Hiking, Skateboarding, Kayaking

Introduction: My name is Cheryll Lueilwitz, I am a sparkling, clean, super, lucky, joyous, outstanding, lucky person who loves writing and wants to share my knowledge and understanding with you.